tips of saving a relationship

Tips of Saving a Relationship

Generally relationships are like a rocky road, these calls for everyone to learn tips of keeping his or her love life going despite the roughness encountered on the track. It is a common knowledge that all relationships always goes through challenges as the case with all roads always have bumps along the way. The earlier one realizes this, the better. One then needs to start analyzing the relationship and try to the potential problems that might crop up along the way. This give one a better chance of preparing for any challenge that crops up because one is already prepared, it is said failure to prepare is preparation to fail.

Most marriage and family experts agrees that despite this fact that every relationship has its own unique challenges, thus it is upon every couples to learn how to deal with them in order to keep their relationship going. Running away is never a solution for solving problems in marriage as most of people may often think, but staying in there, learning how to tackle problems, and maneuver through the complex life challenges is the best way. In order to achieve this one may be required to read self-help materials, going for couple’s seminars, seeking counseling, learning or coping how other successful couples live, and last but not the list seeking Devin intervention.

Some of the challenges couple encounters in relationships include

1. Poor Communication 

Most people keep secrets, about their history; others just shock their partners by with a revealing their past secrets like a bombshells due to poor communication skills. One has to learn how and when to spill certain secrets about his or her past or present life. Remember some secrets are better when kept to oneself because revealing them may bring more harm in the relationship than healing it. In an ideal world it mostly advisable that one should never keep anything or hold any information that his or her partner doesn’t know, but the truth of the matter is that we live in a real world where some things are easily said than done.

Listening is also a part of communication, some partners’ are not good in paying attention when their better half is speaking or expressing their concern about a particular issue. It is advisable not to listen while you're operating your phone, watching TV, or while attending to other house chaos.

Other Problem-solving tips include:

• Make a definite appointment which is convenient for both of you, and if you staying together, it is advisable to put your personal phones off or on vibration, make sure all kids are asleep if you have any.
• Agree on some rules, like no interruptions until one is through with saying whatever he or wanted to say.
•  If what you are talking about may cause one partner or both of you to raise you voices, or scream, which some times is good because it eases ones’ tempers, then you should go to a public place like the in a park, or in a busy restaurant where no one in particular knows you an will not cause embarrassment cause of the screaming.
• Always avoid blame games and phrases like “you never or you always…etc
• When you are listening make sure your body language shows you are paying attention. You can use some expressions like nodding which shows that you are getting what the other person is saying. Always avoid doodling, looking at your watch, or filling at your nails.

2. Sex

This is a thorny issue in most marriages; even couples who love each other can be incompatible in sexuality. This is precipitated by lack of proper sexual self-awareness and edification. Ironically sex is one of the MAIN reason couples get tings in a union because naturally our bodies our bodies are wired in a way that male and female attracts each other due to the hormones we have. Also sex helps the body to releases some hormones makes our bodies both mentally, and physically healthier. Sex also maintains the chemistry between a couple healthy.

How to maintain good sexual life in a relationship  

• It is always important to plan a convenient time for both of you. Couples need not necessarily have sex at night when both or one of them is tired. Partners should make sure it is enjoyable as well, by trying different styles and places to have sex.
• It is advisable to consult a trained sex therapist to assist resolve your sexual problems if is beyond you abilities.